Leaving the Light On

The Inn at Mountain View beautifully illuminated by a vibrant sunset with pink crepe myrtles and a blooming flower garden in full bloom.

If you turn on the television today, you’ll probably come across an insurance commercial featuring a coach who tries to stop young adults from turning into their parents. The ads are designed to be funny, but if you look beneath the humor, the underlying messages (to me) are troubling:

  • Don’t make eye contact.
  • Don’t strike up a conversation with strangers.
  • Mind your own business.
  • Look at your phone.
  • And whatever you do, don’t care too much.

Thank goodness some people live the direct opposite of those messages!

I want to share a story today about two people who do just that, some friends of mine, Kevin and Cheri.

Before I introduce you, let me tell you about where they live. The little town of Mountain View is an Arkansas treasure. Tucked away in a beautiful part of the state, it’s a great place to visit for a fun and refreshing getaway. There are so many wonderful people and so much to see and do. There’s shopping and fishing and restaurants and crafts and talented artisans. You can spend some time learning heritage, craftsman, and artisanal skills at the Ozark Folk Center Craft Village. Fishermen can cast a line into the White River, and adventurers can explore Blanchard Springs Caverns. There’s a lot of great music in the town also. It’s what Mountain View is known for—whether it’s scheduled concerts at the Ozark Folk Center, weekend shows at the Jimmy Driftwood Barn, weekly performances by the talented Pam Setser and others at the charming little Club Possum, and much more… This unique town has authentically earned its identity as the “Folk Music Capital of the World.”

Local musicians and spectators gathered under a brightly lit wooden gazebo at night to play acoustic folk music outside in Mountain View Arkansas.

Long-time visitors know that the real heartbeat of the town happens in the Pickin’ Park. It’s so unique… a place where musicians and singers from around the United States gather together to sit and pick and sing. They play authentic, acoustic music – strumming guitars, picking banjos, playing the fiddle, the mandolin, the upright bass… It’s a place where groups assemble into bands that have never played together before…or perhaps never even met. When the notes from the instruments begin, spectators from all over gather to sit and enjoy the songs and the music.

Right at the edge of the park sits a beautiful historic 1886 inn. It’s fittingly called The Inn at Mountain View – and it boasts a sprawling front porch looking out over the Pickin’ Park… a place where inn visitors can relax under ceiling fans, sitting in rocking chairs or a porch swing while contentedly listening to the music.

The first time I ever walked into the inn was during the off-season. I had noticed there were new owners – so a friend and I dropped by to find out when they would be opening up. Those new owners were named Kevin and Cheri and they were busy that day – working hard to get the inn up and running…..but they didn’t treat us like an interruption. They treated us like family, enthusiastically walking us around, showing us the rooms, telling us the history, and sharing their excitement for the future. That was my first hint that the Inn at Mountain View was going to be something special.

Over the years, the Inn has become one of my favorite getaways – a wonderful place to just reset and refresh when the weight of daily responsibilities get a little heavy. When I drive down for a stay there, I try to arrive early because I want to respect the innkeepers’ schedule, knowing they can’t fully settle in for their evening until all their guests have checked in. So many places these days use an automatic check-in service, no contact, but not the Inn at Mountain View. They greet their guests individually, and it means a lot. They care about connection.

I’ll never forget one specific trip when I turned onto Highway 66 at Leslie and noticed I was having some minor issues with the car. Phone service is sketchy, intermittent on the 30-plus minute drive from Leslie to Mountain View so I was thoughtful, wondering if it had been a good decision to continue on. As I drove along I had the thought that perhaps…if I didn’t show up on time to check in, that Kevin and Cheri might check on me. I knew at least that they would notice that I hadn’t arrived, and that comforted me. I made it safely, and the moment I stepped inside, the stress of the highway faded away into the quiet calm of the house.

That peace isn’t an accident. It is the result of a business that has been intentionally turned into a ministry.

Every morning at the inn, a cheerful handbell rings out, calling guests to the comfortable dining room for breakfast. Everyone sits family style at large tables, passing delicious food back and forth and talking, visiting – getting to know one another. Before anyone starts to eat though, Kevin steps out to say grace. In a world that sometimes seems to shrink back from faith, Kevin boldly uses the microphone his job has given him to honor the Lord. He leads the entire room in a prayer, centering the day on gratitude and grace and reminding a room full of strangers to give our Heavenly Father the honor He deserves.

Kevin and Cheri’s hospitality, their intentional care, spills out all day long to their guests. Cookies or other desserts appear in the dining room for guests to wander in and enjoy. Those resting on the porch in the afternoon are sometimes surprised with unexpected treats like freshly made warm bread pudding. Kevin and Cheri don’t advertise these extras. It’s not part of the contract. It’s just a reflection of their hearts.

But a moment that is forever etched into my mind and the reason this story is being written happened several years ago on a night when the inn was completely full. My friend Kay and I had traveled to see a concert at the Ozark Folk Center featuring Ricky Skaggs. It was a great show, and because we had VIP tickets, we stayed late for a meet and greet after the performance. On the way back to the inn that evening, still excited and talking about the show, we stopped at Sonic, sitting in the car to chat and laugh. By the time we finally pulled back up at the inn, the town was completely dark, the Pickin’ Park was empty, and the streets were quiet.

But there, sitting alone in the dark on the pleasant front porch, was Kevin.

I was surprised. I knew he had to get up early the next morning to cook breakfast for the Inn’s guests before going to church….so I wondered why he was sitting on the porch alone. As we walked up, he asked us about the concert so we sat down in rocking chairs to visit with him for a bit before going inside. And that’s when I figured it out, when I realized the truth. He was waiting up for us! I can’t tell you how that touched my heart. Obviously, we were capable of taking care of ourselves, but to Kevin, we were under his roof and he refused to go to bed until he knew his guests – all his guests – were safely inside for the night. Not since I was a little girl had someone watched the road for my safe return, and the profound comfort of that moment has never left me. I realized in that moment just how deeply it touches the soul to know someone cares enough to leave the light on for you.

Remembering it still brings tears to my eyes. In a culture that laughs at television commercial characters for caring too much or crossing lines to talk to strangers, we have built a world where it is incredibly easy to feel entirely on your own. Kevin was a living reminder that evening that we aren’t meant to live in isolation. We are all here to look out for one another, to connect, and to care.

As I write this, Kevin and Cheri have recently placed the historic inn on the market. But true to form, it isn’t a hasty decision born out of weariness—it is what they beautifully call a “pray and wait” decision. After years of consecutive growth in their business, their hearts are simply turning toward retirement and spending precious time with their grandchildren six hours away. They aren’t just selling a piece of real estate; they are patiently waiting on God’s perfect timing to hand over the keys to the next caretaker. As Kevin so beautifully puts it, if God isn’t through with them there, they aren’t leaving. They are simply holding the space open for the next person called to carry on the legacy of care and ministry they’ve spent years building.

Kevin and Cheri’s excellent hospitality proves that you don’t need a pulpit to have a ministry, to care for others, to point people to the Lord. You just need a servant’s heart. By rejecting the modern culture of isolation, they turned an old historic inn into a sanctuary for the weary – a place of warmth, of celebration, of comfort, and joy – proving that when you tune your life to the service of the Lord, any job can become holy ground.

Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it. — Hebrews 13:2

Choosing to Dwell on the Light: Overcoming the Burden of Regret

Mother and me

Have you ever felt guilty about something that happened a long time ago—something that, when you think back, you so wish you had done differently? I have times when heavy thoughts creep into my mind—and I start thinking about things in the past I wish I could change. If I let myself, I can easily struggle with worry and guilt… and that’s so pointless. Keeping those regrets alive serves no positive purpose.

My dear Mother battled cancer for a long time—always with a smile on her face and joy in her heart. It was really something—her faith, her strength, her happiness. She was a wonderful patient, and it was always a joy to be around her. But as her daughter, it was also very difficult to see her unable to get up and go with me—to leave the hospital and go out and about to have fun like we had always done. We were in and out of UAMS in Little Rock a lot during the last year of her life, and it was….very hard. I just desperately wanted everything to go back to normal. Still, we found ways to celebrate and enjoy the days together. Mother was pretty good at it – and I followed her example.

Birthdays were always, always a very big deal to my Mother. When I was a little girl, she planned the best parties for me—always unique and so much fun. She loved to create such fun activities for me and my friends.

Mother was also a wonderful cook, and there are so many of her meals that I loved (and miss!)… but her wonderful fried tacos were always my favorite. So on my birthday, she would always make fried tacos for me with fresh strawberry cake for dessert. The menu stayed the same every year. I loved it—and so did she.

It was a tradition she never wanted to break. One year on my birthday, when I was teaching in Republic, Missouri, she called me (as she always did) while I was driving to work to sing Happy Birthday. She sang cheerfully, but I could tell something was wrong. When I asked her, she admitted that she was driving herself to the emergency room but told me firmly not to worry.

As it turns out, she had done some eyeglass repair the night before and left a little white bottle of super glue on the bathroom sink. The next morning when she got up, she picked up her morning eyedrops… she thought… and squeezed a big drop into one eye. It burned, and she blinked, and her eyelid stayed shut. Still sleepy, she had picked up the super glue instead of the eyedrops.

She told me to pray and not to worry, and that she would call the school to update me later. I offered to head down immediately to be with her at the hospital, but she told me there was no need. She was almost there, and they would take care of everything. Then…she asked me what time I wanted her to have the tacos ready that evening. Good grief! I told her that we could skip the tacos—or at the very least put them off until another day—and she firmly told me that she WOULD cook my birthday tacos for me on my birthday, and that I just needed to let her know what time. I told her we could talk about it later – but I smiled inside – because I knew she was not going to be stopped. 🙂 Well, to shorten the story—they did get her eye flushed, opened, cleaned, and bandaged… and she did bake my birthday cake that afternoon and fry those tacos that night. I am smiling now just thinking about it.

Fried tacos

Fast forward several years to the last birthday I ever got to spend with my Mother. I had worked the day before, and even though I was taking off to head to Little Rock (a 3+ hour drive) to spend my birthday with Mother, I had decided to go home and spend the night in my own bed before driving down. It wasn’t typical for me – and I must admit, it puzzled me—because it would have been easier to just drive to Little Rock after work—but instead I had gone home. I felt a little guilty about it. Talking to Mother on the phone, however, she assured me that it was a good idea—that I would rest better at home in my own bed and could drive down the next morning. I looked forward to seeing her and planned on leaving early.

The next morning, however, I was so slow getting ready. It seemed like I was somehow dragging my feet as I made some breakfast, put my makeup on, packed a bag… everything just seemed to be taking longer than normal – and for no good reason. I stayed in slow motion, and I ended up leaving much, much later than I had anticipated. Mother and I spoke by phone, of course, and she assured me that all was fine—but I knew that she was looking forward to me being there…and that I was the one causing the delays – and I really couldn’t figure out why. I wanted to be there – to see her smile, to get my hug – to celebrate my day, but I couldn’t seem to get out the door.

I was thoughtful and prayerful on the drive to Little Rock…and I finally faced the reality that this would probably be the last birthday I would spend with my dear Mother. I was avoiding that fact by not facing the day. It’s hard to explain, but I didn’t want to admit that she might not be here on my next birthday, so I let myself get caught in a painful spinning wheel of emotions. The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I was late because I was scared and sad, feeling like that little girl who wanted to run away to the past where Mother was healthy. But of course, I couldn’t.

When I finally parked my car at UAMS, I felt guilty and embarrassed that it was already after lunch. I should have been there sooner…and I knew it. I felt sad.

UAMS

When I got off the elevator and turned to walk down her hall, a nurse smiled at me and said, “Happy birthday!” I thanked her and walked a few more steps, and a nurse’s aide said, “Oh, hello! I hear it’s your birthday!” Mother’s room was toward the end of the hall, and by the time I got there—doctors, nurses, housekeepers, you name it—everyone was telling me Happy Birthday. My Mother was so excited about it that she had literally proudly told everyone.

I walked into her room to see her big, beautiful smile, and bright happy eyes. I told her I was sorry I was late, and she hugged me and told me it was fine. She had even managed to get a present for me—from her hospital bed. That day was happy and hard all at the same time… We laughed and enjoyed the day. It is a memory that I treasure.

But every now and then, the guilt of that day comes back to me. My mind starts to swirl and painful thoughts start to take over:

  • “You knew that could be your last time to celebrate your birthday with her. Why didn’t you get there earlier?”
  • “Mother must have been so disappointed that I wasn’t there early that morning. She was so looking forward to seeing me.”
  • “How could I have taken so long to get down there—when I would give so much for a few more minutes with her now?”

If I let them, these thoughts can really take over…just typing them now is very hard for me…but dwelling on these things serves no positive purpose. I was slow that day because I love my Mother so dearly – and I wanted time to stop – because time was taking her away from me.

Feeling guilty about something I cannot now change just makes me sad, undermines my confidence, and piles on stress. SO—I tell myself that I have to think on the good things, and I work to focus specifically on the good things of that specific day. There are MANY:

  • I got a hug and a kiss from my Mother that day.
  • She was so proud of me she told almost everyone on the floor that it was my birthday.
  • I got to see her beautiful smile.
  • We played Trouble and Dominoes together.
  • We had a big window and a beautiful view of Markham Street in Little Rock.
  • We laughed together.
  • We talked about wonderful memories of other times.
  • She knew how very much I loved her.
  • We were together.
Domino game

The mind is powerful—and the good news is we really do get to choose what we think about.

It took me a long time to realize that the grace my mother gave me that afternoon when I walked in late was the same grace I needed to start giving myself. She wasn’t counting the hours on the clock; she was just counting the blessings of us being in the same room. But even more than that, it is the very same grace the Lord offers us. Jesus doesn’t stand over us with a stopwatch, tallying up our past mistakes or measuring our regrets. He met my brokenness with open arms, reminding me that He has already carried the weight of my guilt so that I don’t have to.

Regret wants to anchor us to our weakest moments, but the Lord’s love anchors us to the truth. My mother lived her life with a smile on her face and joy in her heart, choosing faith over fear every single day—even from a hospital bed. She walked in the freedom of the Lord’s grace, and the best way I can honor her legacy and our precious Savior isn’t by looking back at the past with regret, but by looking forward with the same strength and faith she showed me.

Whenever the shadows of those old thoughts try to creep back in, I take a deep breath, I think of her smile, and most of all I remember the Lord’s promise to cover our past with His grace and give us a future full of hope. I choose to dwell on the light. I choose (over and over again) to think on the good things.

God’s Promise to Clear Away Our Regrets:

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” — Isaiah 43:18-19

His Promise to Redeem Our Hardest Days:

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” — Romans 8:28

His Instruction on How to Protect Our Minds:

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” — Philippians 4:8

Our Declaration of Victory to Move Forward:

“But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 3:13-14

Philippians 4:8